#UsAfterYou – Featuring A Moment with Franca

Our complete family with two daughters

It’s time for another guest post in the series #UsAfterYou, where I ask some of my favourite bloggers to reveal how having children changed their relationship. This week it’s Franca from the brilliant A Moment With Franca. If you haven’t checked out her blog yet, it’s a must for family fun, honest product reviews and great giveaways. She also hosts the fabulous #KCACOLS linky every Sunday – hands down one of my favourites of the week. Over to Franca…

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When Nick and I got married we knew that we wanted to have kids straight away and one of the reasons for that was because we were already in our 30’s and were both ready to start a family. We were not together for long before we married, but we started our relationship being good friends so that really helped us later because we knew each other very well, which made it easier to set aside the goals we wanted to achieve as a couple. One of those goals was to start a family after one year of being married.

Us before starting a family

Us before kids

This meant that we were going to step into parenthood knowing what was going to happen and we were ready for what was coming. Well at least this is what we thought. We were determined to have a balance between us as a couple and us as parents. We still wanted to keep aside some time for us and we didn’t want to get absorbed by the parenthood life.

Well this is very easy to say, we were just naive to think that we were able to achieve this. Even though we were conscious that we needed to be strong and try to keep that wish but things weren’t that simple. Actually, it was very difficult to keep a balance especially in the first years after having a baby.

our wedding before starting a family

Our wedding and honeymoon

We have two girls, Bella who is 5 years old and Sienna who is 17 months old. They have a gap of four years so you can imagine that when Bella was 4 years old and Sienna was not born, she was going full time to nursery and our lives were much better because we were starting to reach a better balance again. We actually got a few dates during that time. Not many really as I was always very worried to leave Bella with a babysitter so we never had that. We were only able to perhaps go to the movies or have a meal out if Nick’s parents or brother were around to help, or if we were visiting them. Our time out as a couple was limited but when we had them we enjoyed them a lot.

Us when we started a family with one daughter

Us with one daughter

When we thought we were finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, it went away as we then had Sienna. For the second time, we were there dealing with everything that involved having a little baby again. How is it possible, now knowing all the things involved with being a parent, we then decided to have another child? Are we crazy? Mmm yes we are LOL!

We all know that behind all the trouble that we live through, there is so much love that we receive from these two little terrors, that makes all of this worth it.  I may sound like a cliche but I wouldn’t change these experiences for anything in the world! It is part of being an adult, and a parent, and part of living life! They are our reason to keep going, our reason to have new goals and our reason to keep alive.

This time around we were not that afraid of leaving Sienna with others. We wanted to try new things and enjoy our time all together as a family. We do go out a lot which is also very nice. I love watching Nick being a dad and seeing all the love that they (Nick and the girls) have for each other. I love being able to watch my family grow, it is just so beautiful. We have someone now that helps us with Sienna and Bella so Nick and I can attend events or just go out and have a date. It is just so nice to be able to go out and enjoy each other’s company and forget for at least one minute that we have kids!!!

Our complete family with two daughters

Us with both daughters

Now that we know for sure that we will have only two girls and that there will be no more baby production FOREVER, we can finally start planning a new chapter in our lives as a family and as a couple. I really would like to start enjoying every single minute of being a mum. Also, something which is not less important but actually indeed VERY important: I would like to to be able to enjoy being A WIFE again!

Now that Sienna is settling at nursery and Bella is at school, I can finally have some time to reorganise my life. I would like to set some nights aside for just Nick and I. JUST US!! I will make this a plan for each month. I hope I can manage to do that! WISH ME LUCK!!

Us after kids

Us after kids

What about you? Did you also feel your life change after having kids? What things did you used to do before kids that you miss now that you have kids? 

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25 Comment

  1. Reply
    A Moment with Franca
    January 22, 2016 at 11:57 am

    Oh Natalie thank you so much for your kind words and of course for having me as a guest post for this fab series #UsAfterYou!! I enjoyed doing this! It was therapeutic to go through all my photos since I met Nick. It was nice to remember all those moments again!! 🙂 xxx
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      Mum in Brum
      January 24, 2016 at 10:02 pm

      You’re welcome Franca, thanks for such a great contribution! I’m sure many parents will be able to relate to this. I love your photo callages, they make it so personal xxx

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    January 24, 2016 at 12:24 am

    So many beautiful family photos Franca! I can really relate to the feeling that you need to close the chapter on baby-making before you can get onto the next one. We are hoping for a second baby sooner rather than later, and it feels like life is a little bit on hold for now. Thanks Natalie for bringing us another cool #usafteryou.
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      Mum in Brum
      January 24, 2016 at 10:29 pm

      Hi Robyn, I completely see why some couples do want to have their children close together – before you get too comfortable and forget how hard those first six months are (and the sleepless nights!) 🙂

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    Laura @ Dot Makes 4
    January 24, 2016 at 9:54 am

    What lovely photos Franca! You have such a beautiful family! I had my son when I was 20, so in a way, I’ve sort of grown up with him. With my daughter, I was 30, and felt more settled. I wouldn’t change those experiences for the world though!
    Laura xx
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      Mum in Brum
      January 24, 2016 at 10:33 pm

      I have a friend who had children at similar ages to you with the same age gap – I remember her saying like it was as though she was doing it all for the first time again second time around! But she wouldn’t change it for the world either. Everyone’s experience of having a family is unique and special and everything has a way of working out as it should xx

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    The Speed Bump
    January 24, 2016 at 11:56 am

    Gorgeous photos and what a lovely story Franca! I love this series, it’s always a lovely read 🙂 #KCACOLS

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      Mum in Brum
      January 24, 2016 at 10:40 pm

      Ah so glad you enjoy the series! Would you like to be a part of it as yours would be a great story from a different viewpoint (as an unplanned pregnancy!) No worries if not, let me know 🙂 x

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    Lucy at occupation:(m)other
    January 24, 2016 at 2:27 pm

    This is such a lovely idea for a series and this is a great post. Franca really takes us through the journey her and Nick are on. I love the plan for them to have more time together…sounds like a very good one! And a lovely set of pics that really tell their own story as well. What a gorgeous family #KCACOLS
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    Coombe Mill - Fiona Cambouropoulos
    January 25, 2016 at 10:21 am

    What a wonderful set of photos, life has to change after kids but keeping sight of each other as well as you as a family unit is so important. What a beautiful family you make. #MarvMonday

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      Mum in Brum
      January 30, 2016 at 4:07 pm

      I couldn’t agree more! It’s so easy to get caught up in family life and all of the ‘to dos’ that sometimes we can forget each other. But it’s so important to remind ourselves that partners are there before kids and will (hopefully) be there after all the kids have flown the nest!

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    January 25, 2016 at 5:29 pm

    I love this series. So many lovely family photos Franca and I can relate to lots of what you have said. It is definitely important to find time to just be a couple and have some child free time. My husband and I love date nights, we don’t get them very often so when we do they feel really special and we make the most of it. Love reading these posts xx #kcacols
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      Mum in Brum
      January 30, 2016 at 4:09 pm

      So glad you’re enjoying the series Wendy! Date nights are so hard to schedule in aren’t they? But as you say, at least that makes them special when we finally do get the opportunity for one! xx

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    Cathy (MummyTravels)
    January 27, 2016 at 2:30 pm

    Lovely post – life always changes after having kids, for good and for not so good but I’m the same that I wouldn’t trade it for a second. I do miss having as much time with my husband, as that always seems to come last. I’ve come up with a new plan to get more dates in, so we just have to make it happen! #bestandworst
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      Mum in Brum
      January 30, 2016 at 4:15 pm

      This is also my plan for this year – we just need to find a babysitter first! 🙂

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    helen gandy
    January 27, 2016 at 4:27 pm

    Ahh it’s always nice to try and get some couple time, although with kids it is so hard to try and arrange something! Thanks for linking up #bestandworst x
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    tracey bowden
    January 27, 2016 at 7:17 pm

    I love Franca and visit her blog regularly. It’s lovely to read more about her and her family and a great series too. I really enjoyed reading this #KCACOLS
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      Mum in Brum
      January 30, 2016 at 4:17 pm

      So glad you enjoyed the read Tracey, I love hear about other people’s journeys in parenthood x

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    Complicated Gorgeousness
    January 28, 2016 at 10:10 am

    Lovely post and pictures. I would like to be a wife again now the kids are less needy. We mostly all go out to big events like weddings or parties but we did cinema and pizza over Christmas and it was brilliant. What a nice series! And how is this this the first time I have seen your blog fellow Mum in Brum xx #coolmumclub
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    New Mummy Blog
    January 29, 2016 at 11:13 pm

    What lovely photos Franca, and such a lovely post. It’s so interesting to read a bit more about my favourite bloggers, and you havea knack for featuring them 🙂 I really love this series #kcacols
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    A Moment with Franca
    January 30, 2016 at 12:15 pm

    I know that I have commented this post already and I’m so grateful that you invited me to be a guest post of your lovely series but I wanted to visited you again to say thank you so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS and I would love to see you again on Sunday! 🙂 x
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    Claire at Tin Box Traveller
    January 30, 2016 at 3:28 pm

    I know exactly what you mean when you say you didn’t want to let parenting get in the way of your relationship. It’ a great plan, eh?! If only the babies had been sent the memo!! Ha! Good luck with the date nights Franca, they are so rewarding for your relationship x #coolmumclub
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      Mum in Brum
      January 30, 2016 at 4:25 pm

      Haha wouldn’t that be a great thing! I love all of the plans we have before the baby comes and the reality slap we all get once they arrive. If only we’d read parenting blogs back then 😉 x

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    My Petit Canard
    January 31, 2016 at 1:51 pm

    Awww Franca, what a lovely post! Its so nice to hear about how life has changed for you and Nick over the years, and so lovely to see all the gorgeous pictures of you all. It will definitely start to get easier as the girls get older, I dont think you are that far away again from seeing the light ;-). I can completly relate to this post as it feels like we have started to get a good rhythm and balance in our family life and I think we are about to go back to square one all over again! But like you said, it will all be totally worth it, and I know it will pay dividends in two or three years time :-). Emily #MarvMondays

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      Mum in Brum
      February 3, 2016 at 2:36 pm

      Hi Emily, I think everyone must feel the same when having baby number two – I know that it’s one thing that I worry about when we have our discussions whether to try again. But as you say all worth it in the end, and it does get easier with each month. Hope your pregnancy’s treating you well x

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