#UsAfterYou – Featuring Dot Makes 4

It’s time for another #UsAfterYou guest blog post – the series where I ask some brilliant fellow bloggers to reveal what having kids has meant for their relationship. This week we have the lovely Laura from Dot Makes 4. Over on her blog Laura shares her family adventures and her life as a SAHM, alongside some brilliant ‘free from’ recipe ideas – all tried and tested by her son Mikey.

And, by the way, how ace are her kids’ names? Over to Laura…

Dot Makes 4 blogBeing in a relationship is still relatively new to me! Yes, we’ve been married for nearly three years, but until Mark and I met, I’d been a single mum since Mikey was born.

When Mark and I first met each other at the local football, Mikey was 7. I thought that having a child would bother him, but far from it. He knew that we were a package deal.

Mikey and Mark got on so well. The three of us used to spend the weekends together at the park, going bowling or just chilling watching a film. It was brilliant!

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When Mark and I got time to ourselves, it was doing normal couple-y things  in the evenings when Mikey was in bed, like going out for tea or to the cinema or simple things like curling up on the sofa and falling asleep.

It was only when we got married in 2013 that we were able to spend more time together when we moved in with Mark. It was a bit weird for both Mikey and myself as we had always lived with my parents. It took a bit of getting used to, but we love our own house!

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We found out we were expecting Dot just before our first wedding anniversary.  We were thrilled, but our relationship dynamic changed almost immediately. Not in a bad way, but I suffered with severe morning sickness throughout my pregnancy and even had to have a spell in hospital for dehydration.

Even after having Dot, I was recovering from surgery, so it meant that for about a year, I had to rely on Mark for a lot of duties that I would I normally do.  Whenever I ask him about it, he always says that he worried a lot and it felt like I was ill for a lot longer than a year!

Our dynamic has changed again, as I am now lucky enough to be a stay at home mum. We both love it not only because it’s great for the kids, but also because both our mums stayed at home when we were younger.

Having children does change your relationship. Yes, the pair of you are always tired, you have less time together just the two of you and you can’t drop things and go out on whim.

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But there are also great points. You cherish the time you do spend together and find more inventive ways to spend your time, like a lovely romantic evening in when the kids are asleep rather than a meal out and the cinema.  

 Having children with someone also makes you look at your partner differently. I love what a great dad Mark is. He always thought that he’d missed out on having kids and now he has two, so he’s making every moment count.

Most of all though, I love that this time, I get to share it all with someone else.

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How did having kids change your relationship? If you’d like to submit a guest blog post for the #UsAfterYou series, drop me a line – I’d love to have you! x

 

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19 Comment

  1. Maestro mummy
    February 11, 2016 at 7:33 am

    Ahh what a lovely post! Sounds like you are such a happy family & your photos are lovely! #coolmumclub

  2. Katie/Squirmy Popple
    February 11, 2016 at 11:31 am

    My husband and I definitely have nights in instead of nights out these days, but I think we appreciate our time together more. Thanks for sharing! #coolmumclub
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  3. MMT
    February 11, 2016 at 7:55 pm

    Mark sounds like a super cool Dad. It can’t be easy doing the ‘dating stage’ when you are already constrained by the practicalities of having a child. A lovely story, thank you for sharing at #coolmumclub Nat x

  4. Emma
    February 14, 2016 at 9:51 am

    Awwww what a lovely post. Laura sounds like she has a lovely, supportive family 🙂
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  5. Emma
    February 14, 2016 at 9:51 am

    whoops I meant to put #kcacols
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  6. Alice
    February 14, 2016 at 3:03 pm

    What a lovely story 🙂 I would totally agree that you see your partner differently once you have a child and see how they respond to fatherhood x

    1. Mum in Brum
      February 17, 2016 at 2:01 pm

      I think fatherhood definitely brings out the softer side in the males of the species 🙂 x

  7. Alice
    February 14, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    ooops! #kcacols
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  8. laura dove
    February 15, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    Lovely story! I wrote a post about this not long ago, it really does change things! #marvmondays
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  9. Kaye
    February 15, 2016 at 8:54 pm

    Aw, lovely post. My OH and I were together a good 7 years before A came along and honestly, we were living mostly separate lives (as we lived 40 minutes apart). We decided to give it a good go and he moved to my town about a year before and we became closer than ever, and then A decided to come along and now we’re living together and engaged; children are hard work but they’ve changed our lives for the better! Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

    1. Mum in Brum
      February 17, 2016 at 11:07 am

      Aw it’s so nice to hear how children can really cement a relationship. I think couples can think of the negatives when they consider having a baby, but more often than not having children brings you closer together than ever x

  10. Maria
    February 16, 2016 at 8:02 am

    Ahhh what a lovely story Laura! It must have been strange to adjust to living as a family unit when it had just been you and your son for so long. I love that you and Mark manage to make time for each other – it’s so important isn’t it.

    Nat – I love this series I’m going to have a think about writing a post as I’d love to guest post.

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to see you back on Saturday 27th when the linky opens again xx
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  11. Maria
    February 16, 2016 at 8:04 am

    Ahhh what a lovely story Laura! It must have been strange to adjust to living as a family unit when it had just been you and your son for so long. I love that you and Mark manage to make time for each other – it’s so important isn’t it.

    Natalie – I love this series I’m going to have a think about writing a post as I’d love to join in.

    Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS and I hope to see you back on Saturday 27th when the linky opens again xx
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    1. Mum in Brum
      February 17, 2016 at 11:04 am

      Hi Maria, it would be great to have you involved. Drop me an email when you get chance xx

  12. Rosie
    February 16, 2016 at 10:24 pm

    What a lovely post, he sounds like a keeper! Xx #KCACOLS

    1. Mum in Brum
      February 17, 2016 at 11:03 am

      Doesn’t he just!? xx

  13. helen gandy
    February 17, 2016 at 7:52 pm

    Such a lovely post, sounds like a lovely family 🙂 I think it’s so wonderful to have a supportive husband. Thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst
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  14. Mummuddlingthrough
    February 18, 2016 at 9:30 pm

    Popping back from #bestandworst
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  15. A Moment with Franca
    February 26, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    Aww I love this post, especially finding out more about Laura. I love her blog and her so this post was a nice read! Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS, -) x
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