It’s time for another #UsAfterYou guest blog post – the series where I ask some brilliant fellow bloggers to reveal what having kids has meant for their relationship. This week we have the lovely Laura from Dot Makes 4. Over on her blog Laura shares her family adventures and her life as a SAHM, alongside some brilliant ‘free from’ recipe ideas – all tried and tested by her son Mikey.
And, by the way, how ace are her kids’ names? Over to Laura…
When Mark and I first met each other at the local football, Mikey was 7. I thought that having a child would bother him, but far from it. He knew that we were a package deal.
Mikey and Mark got on so well. The three of us used to spend the weekends together at the park, going bowling or just chilling watching a film. It was brilliant!
When Mark and I got time to ourselves, it was doing normal couple-y things in the evenings when Mikey was in bed, like going out for tea or to the cinema or simple things like curling up on the sofa and falling asleep.
It was only when we got married in 2013 that we were able to spend more time together when we moved in with Mark. It was a bit weird for both Mikey and myself as we had always lived with my parents. It took a bit of getting used to, but we love our own house!
We found out we were expecting Dot just before our first wedding anniversary. We were thrilled, but our relationship dynamic changed almost immediately. Not in a bad way, but I suffered with severe morning sickness throughout my pregnancy and even had to have a spell in hospital for dehydration.
Even after having Dot, I was recovering from surgery, so it meant that for about a year, I had to rely on Mark for a lot of duties that I would I normally do. Whenever I ask him about it, he always says that he worried a lot and it felt like I was ill for a lot longer than a year!
Our dynamic has changed again, as I am now lucky enough to be a stay at home mum. We both love it not only because it’s great for the kids, but also because both our mums stayed at home when we were younger.
Having children does change your relationship. Yes, the pair of you are always tired, you have less time together just the two of you and you can’t drop things and go out on whim.
But there are also great points. You cherish the time you do spend together and find more inventive ways to spend your time, like a lovely romantic evening in when the kids are asleep rather than a meal out and the cinema.
Having children with someone also makes you look at your partner differently. I love what a great dad Mark is. He always thought that he’d missed out on having kids and now he has two, so he’s making every moment count.
Most of all though, I love that this time, I get to share it all with someone else.
How did having kids change your relationship? If you’d like to submit a guest blog post for the #UsAfterYou series, drop me a line – I’d love to have you! x