#UsAfterYou – Featuring Makeup to Motherhood

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Welcome to another guest post for #UsAfterYou – the series where I ask some of my fellow bloggers how having a baby impacted their relationship.

This week I’m thrilled to have Jodie from Makeup to Motherhood. Her blog has a fantastic range of parenting posts and beauty tips. As a parenting blogger I obviously spend a lot of time reading parenting posts, but don’t tend to follow too many beauty bloggers. So I love it when I come across one of Jodie’s practical beauty posts which always make me want to indulge in a little more ‘me time’ or go and invest in some new makeup!

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It seems to be common knowledge among Mums that your relationship will go through some major changes after having a child and I guess to some extent that’s true. But for me, my marriage and my family I definitely would not say that the change has been negative.

My husband and I have been together since high school and to say we have been through a lot in the past 10 years is an understatement.

Aged 16 our relationship had survived high school and we then dealt with moving to separate sixth forms and colleges. Aged 17 our relationship survived a year long stretch of major surgeries, seeing me wheelchair bound for a whole year unable to do the very basic things for myself. Aged 18 our relationship survived my husband (then boyfriend) moving away to university and me starting my career. Age 20 my husband stood by my side through a bought of serious mental illness and again helped me through every single day.

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The point of this is not only that we have been through a lot for a couple so young – although that may be true – but that our relationship was and still is a strong one. A relationship built on trust, truth and an overwhelming amount of support and understanding through even the toughest of times.

Fast forward 2 years and our love had resulted in a beautiful spring wedding and gave us the gift of our beautiful baby girl in my belly.

Throughout my pregnancy, I was told countless times that once my daughter arrived our relationship would become strained – and when I answered with something along the lines of “no we will be fine, we are a team” I was often met with raised eyebrows or a roll of the eyes.

My daughter is now one year old and my husband and I are about to celebrate 10 years together.

Sure, a lot has changed this past year. I now get much less sleep and am often so busy I feel as though my head may pop off at any given moment. And my husband; well he works like crazy to build a life for us and our daughter and gets up stupidly early just so he can be home early to spend quality time with both myself and our daughter.

Has my relationship suffered, or become strained? No. It hasn’t.

We are busier than ever and have a whole host of responsibilities that previously we didn’t have to give a second thought to, but we still support each other through each and every day and honestly, I don’t really feel as if our relationship has changed very much at all. We simply have three of us instead of two to laugh with and love.

I know for sure that the reason we are so solid as a couple is because of our past. Yes sleepless nights and screaming newborns are not exactly fun, but we have been through worse and our daughter is a blessing to us – not a curse.

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 Over the years, the very best moments of our relationship have not been extravagant weekends away or crazy nights out, they have been the quiet times. The times where we are reminded how deep our love runs and that knowledge that nothing in this world is strong enough to shake us. So although our date nights and baby-free days are very few and far between, it doesn’t matter. We are still happy and we still laugh together every single day.

After 10 years spent with my husband I know for certain that our love is built to last. Having our daughter in our life has shown us we are capable of loving in an even deeper way than either of us knew was possible and that in itself has made our relationship better. Now when I look into my husbands eyes I see the first year of our daughters life and all that we have accomplished together and I am reminded of how lucky we are.

And even better than that – my husband has proven that he is not only capable of loving me in this way, but also our daughter. I am so proud of what an amazing Dad he has become. Some days I swear he’s doing a better job than me.

So for any expectant parents out there who are worried about their relationship post-baby, I say as long as you have a solid foundation and know and trust each other you may just surprise yourself and find that you’re even closer than you were before!

It is definitely possible to keep the magic alive as parents – we just have to try a little harder and be sure to make our relationships a priority too!

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Did having a baby affect your relationship? If you’d like to submit a guest blog post for the #UsAfterYou series, drop me a line – I’d love to have you! x

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18 Comment

  1. Jodie Allen at Makeup to Motherhood
    February 19, 2016 at 4:28 pm

    Thanks for having me Natalie! It was such a lovely post to write, it reminded me how lucky I am to have a good relationship. Thanks again, Speak soon! x
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    1. Mum in Brum
      February 22, 2016 at 7:55 pm

      No problem Jodie, I love your story and hearing about how you’ve grown up together. Sounds like a fab relationship you have. Thanks again for being involved x

  2. Robyn
    February 22, 2016 at 8:54 am

    Oh I love this, best one in the series yet! It sounds like a really special marriage you have Jodie, and a beautiful family 🙂
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    1. Mum in Brum
      February 22, 2016 at 7:45 pm

      Glad you enjoyed it Robyn! It does sound like they have a very special relationship, I always like to hear about couples lasting when they got together at a young age 🙂

  3. Esther @ Inside Out & About
    February 24, 2016 at 9:44 pm

    Oh! This was so lovely to read. Beautiful words and I completely agree that it is the quiet times that are the most perfect and the most precious. I definitely feel like a baby didn’t strain our relationship, it made it stronger and our love for each other grew infinitely xx
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    1. Mum in Brum
      February 28, 2016 at 9:20 pm

      Glad you enjoyed the read Esther, I think if you have a strong foundation, having children will always bring you closer together – even though it can be testing at times xx

  4. Talya
    February 26, 2016 at 5:53 pm

    Once again the combination of a past and working at the magic is the winning combo in making it through as parents! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub with this lovely x
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  5. Kaye
    February 26, 2016 at 7:22 pm

    This one is lovely, it does sound like such a strong relationship which of course is the foundation of a healthy partnership once baby comes. A has only ever changed us for the better but we still have difficult times but I wouldn’t say it’s down to him. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays! Kaye xo

    1. Mum in Brum
      February 28, 2016 at 9:24 pm

      I’d say that we’re exactly the same. Having a baby to care for can be tiring at times, but creating a family together can only make you stronger if you have a good foundation to start with xx

  6. Emma
    February 27, 2016 at 4:13 pm

    Awwww this is lovely. What an amazing relationship they have, so strong. They really seem to be each other’s soul mate 🙂 #justanotherlinky
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  7. Nikki Frank-Hamilton
    March 1, 2016 at 3:25 am

    I love this series, so different from any other, and I love hearing about other people’s lives. This relationship is so strong, it’s amazing that they have been through so much at such a young age, what an inspiration! And that little baby girl is so adorable!
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  8. Sarah (@tobygoesbananas)
    March 1, 2016 at 8:26 pm

    It’s so interesting to read about how other people cope with the changes that having a baby brings. I didn’t meet my husband until I was 32 and now 5 years later we have two amazing boys and although our relationship is different now if anything I would say it is stronger. #sharewithme

    1. Mum in Brum
      March 9, 2016 at 11:56 am

      It’s amazing how fast everything can change isn’t it? We were the same – moved in together, married and had a baby within 4 years. But I do think when you’ve found the right one you will always make it work 🙂

  9. Jenny
    March 1, 2016 at 9:01 pm

    I definitely think you have to work way harder after kids and put your “us” time separate from the family and kids. We work hard for marriages after kids because the focus is off the partnership but as long as that’s focused on I think we all can make it work. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme
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  10. Life as Mum
    March 1, 2016 at 9:36 pm

    What a great post! and wow 10 years! Fantastic.
    Thank you for linking up to #justanotherlinky
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  11. mummyandmonkeys
    March 3, 2016 at 6:06 pm

    Really interesting to read more about you. I think you are right it does bring you closer togther and you also share a love for something. Great series Thanks for linking to #PickNMix
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  12. Stephanie Couch
    March 3, 2016 at 10:37 pm

    Love this, what a beautiful post from Jodie and a great idea for a series 🙂 It really is true that the tough times can really show you how strong your relationship is.

    Stevie x #PicknMix
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  13. Something Crunchy Mummy
    March 4, 2016 at 9:06 pm

    Love this – such a positive post. Thanks for linking up to #justanotherlinky xx
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