Welcome to another guest post in #UsAfterYou – the series where I invite guest bloggers to share how having children changed their relationship. Thank you all for continuing to come back and read the series – it’s so nice to hear that you’re enjoying the posts and read your lovely comments each week. And thanks to all of my fab guest bloggers so far who have helped to establish the series by sharing your stories. If you’d like to be involved, do drop me a line – I love receiving new contributions!
But onto this week where we have the lovely Cheryl from Reimer and Ruby – I love this story of how they got together and I’m sure we can all relate to never getting a naked moment in peace!! Over to Cheryl…
For those who have not read my blog yet, I’ll start off with a small introduction of how my little family all started.
Me and my husband found each other in the wonderful world of the internet. During that time, our eagerness to find someone special outweighs the risks of venturing the web. Before we had a glimpse of each other, we already share the same purpose for doing so, that is to find somebody to settle down with and create our own family. I think the common goal we both have in mind made our connection a bit easier.
After a numerous amount of late night chats, long distance phone calls and his frequent visits to my home country in the Philippines, he finally proposed. As far as I can remember, our big day was the most exciting and memorable day of our lives because we knew that it was officially the start of a big step towards our goal.
When I eventually moved in with him here in the UK, that’s how our family started to form and grow.
We used to live in a one bedroom house until we had Reimer. Then we noticed that our house got smaller and smaller as he got bigger and bigger. Then I got pregnant again with Ruby. Apparently, that then prompted the decision to finally sell the house and buy somewhere bigger. It’s undeniable that our family is obviously getting larger.
Most importantly, having a family made us develop into more mature and responsible individuals and as parents as well. Every decision we make now is not anymore solely about ourselves but for the kids’ benefit too. Everywhere we go, we always have these two kids on our tail no matter what. We’ve also learned a lot of things through them, teaching them discipline and making them discern between good and bad as they grow.
On the other hand, we’ve also undergone a lot of ups and down moments, frustrations and challenges being parents. Despite it all, I still think that’s the best thing we have ever done in our lives. Raising kids is wonderfully amazing and I would never go back to life without them. There is just so much joy and satisfaction in having kids that only a parent can relate to.
On a less serious note, having kids have made our lives so peculiar to the highest level.
- No more special dates with just the two of us, kids always make themselves present on dinner dates
- No more privacy either, as kids always force themselves in the toilet even if one is having a naked moment
- No more watching cinemas because it will just be a waste of money as they won’t sit still for even an hour
- No more uninterrupted meals, kids always make sure we get up to their demands every minute
- No more long lie-ins in the mornings even on days off work, kids don’t fail to wake us up before the clock strikes 7am at the latest.
- No more late nights out with friends, kids have a bedtime routine to follow.
- No more peaceful and quiet times during shopping, kids always ruin it by either crying or mucking around in shops.
Nevertheless, having kids adds more fun and excitement to our lives every single day. Our home is never tedious and quiet, most of the time it’s crazy, messy, naughty, noisy and yet it’s filled with smiles, tickles, cuddles, snuggles and sweet kisses too. Regardless of its chaotic state, it made our house a home…. the only special place for our family.