The biggest surprise to me when I started blogging back in December 2014, was the realisation that I’d be spending a lot more time reading than I would writing. I think when we all first set up a blog we consider the writing aspect (what will I write about? What will my writing style be? Will people be interested in my posts?), but we don’t realise that there’s a whole online community that we’re about to (hopefully) become a part of.
The blogging community and the support within it is most definitely my favourite part of blogging. I love reading about similar experiences and taking inspiration from other posts. I love joining in with linkies – they’re a great way of discovering new blogs and keeping up with my favourites. And I love reading the comments on my own blog posts and have always been a firm believer in replying to those who have taken the time to read and comment on them.
But lately I’ve started to assess where I’m spending most of my time online and where I need to focus in order to grow my blog. I find that recently I’m spending so much time attending to my ‘blogging duties’ of commenting that I hardly have enough time to write. Don’t get me wrong, I am a complete advocate of supporting other bloggers and will always leave a worthwhile comment on any post I’ve read, but let me ask you this…do you really care if I reply to your comment on my own blog? Do you even read it? I use the Comment Reply Notification plugin, so I know that you get an email telling you what I said in my reply – but would you notice if you didn’t?
I know that I comment on at least 30 posts every week (I know many of you read and comment on so many more – as I’ve said before, I’m a slow reader!) but I most definitely don’t get 30 emails telling me that you’ve replied to me – and as much as I love your blog, I don’t revisit the post to check if you have replied. Personally I don’t care if you haven’t – I left it there for you to read and let you know how much I enjoyed your post, I don’t expect anything else from you. But you probably did reply, because that’s blogging etiquette right?
So why do we all get so hung up on this?
As You Baby Me Mummy points out in her post 10 Blogging Myths You Should Ignore Immediately, there are better ways we could use our time and support each other – such as sharing each other’s posts on Twitter or a shout out on Facebook. If someone comments a lot on your blog, go and give their blog some love too. Replying to comments on our own blogs doesn’t drive traffic to any of us.
Don’t mistake this post as me not appreciating your comments – I absolutely love reading every single one of them, and I’m a huge believer in linkies and sharing the comment love which is what makes this community so great. And I’ll definitely still be responding to comments when I get chance, but I’m not going to stress when I have a backlog going back two (okay three) weeks. I’m not going to sit on the sofa next to my husband writing a load of replies on my own blog which will probably never even get read.
Instead I’ll be tweeting your post, or commenting over on your post, or writing that post I’ve been really wanting to write for the past two weeks but haven’t gotten around to.
What do you think? Do you respond to all comments on your own blog? Leave a comment below – I will most likely reply #bloggerguilt!