The hubby and I are watching far too much TV lately. Aside from the new season of Game of Thrones, and some other guilty pleasures (*ahem* Made in Chelsea, Love Island…), we’ve also got into Suits on Netflix, so the sofa is never short of a reason to beckon us over on an evening.
In truth, after a long day with a toddler for me, and a long day at work for Mr M, we’re so tired that all we want to do is crash out on the sofa. We used to always eat our dinner in the kitchen, but even that is falling by the wayside at the moment (“Suits?”)…I feel that we need to pull ourselves away from the sofa and spend more time engaging with each other – beyond “Why does Binky and her boyfriend call each other ‘bubba’ so much?” and “Why doesn’t she just set her dragons on everyone?”
Granted, when you’re restrained to the confines of your house after 7pm, finding fun things to do is more of a challenge than before we had a child. But here are some simple things I’m planning to try over the summer months which will not only help us spend more quality time together, but will also help us to feel much more productive.
6 things to do with your husband on the evening other than watch TV
1. Decorate a room
As a couple we’ve renovated two houses together and have spent many an evening painting walls whilst listening to 80s ballards (did I just admit to that?), getting slightly tipsy with a bottle of red. Of course those days were ‘before child’ when going to bed after midnight didn’t fill me with dread about an any-time-after-5am-wake-up, but decorating can be good fun with good company. There are a few rooms in our house which I’d like to update with a lick of paint, so I’m 100% planning to rope the hubby into helping me. I may even crack open a bottle of red.
2. Cook a ‘special’ meal
We all know that dining in is the new eating out – well, so I tell myself since eating out for us currently involves an 18 month old throwing food everywhere and trying to stand up on her high chair…We started to have regular Friday night ‘date nights’ earlier this year when one of us would cook a slap-up three course meal (or just get the M&S £10 meal deal with wine…). It was great for spending relaxed, quality time together. With both of us feeling a bit crappy from various nursery illnesses we’ve fallen out of this habit recently, but we really need to start making the effort again. I’ve also gotten quite lazy with my cooking since becoming a mum and haven’t tried a new recipe in months, so I’m planning to use these evenings to get my cooking mojo back!
3. Play cards outside
I know this sounds a little old-hat, but on holiday we always take a pack of cards in the absence of a TV or our phones to entertain us. Now that it’s summer, there really is no excuse to not get out in the garden and bring out your inner competitor over a game of cards (cold beer in hand perhaps?)
4. do some gardening
Gardening has always been something of a chore to us. Mainly because we think we don’t have time to keep on top of it and our gardening usually consists of us (the hubby) mowing the lawn begrudgingly at the weekend. However, recently my parents came to give me a hand with cutting some borders and we went to buy some flowers from the local garden centre. I even planted a vegetable patch, and now I’m something of a fan. We still have lots to do out there and could really use our evenings better to get it sorted – it’s a fact that gardening is good for your mind and body, so we better get to it!
5. enjoy a relaxing bath
My baths these days usually have a toddler in them – either splashing water in my face or trying to pull at my nipples (these belong to me again thank you very much!) But I really do miss having a long relaxing soak with the hubby and putting the world to rights. If you’re not up for sharing your baths full stop, take it in turns and just catch up on your day together – anywhere other than on the sofa!
6. Work out together
My relationship with my husband is luckily better than my one with exercise. Me and exercise have had an on-off relationship for years. I’ve had countless gym memberships throughout my life, but unfortunately I always get bored in the end and can always find something better to do! This is even despite the fact that we have quite a lot of exercise equipment in our house (bought during one of those times when I was feeling all enthusiastic about getting super fit!)
I enjoy exercising with others so much more, and with the lighter evenings and a few trips away planned, I’m feeling more motivated to start working out again. The hubby has been saying he needs to start exercising again for the past 12 months – so I really think we need to stop talking about it and start actually doing it! I’m off to make yet another ‘work out’ playlist on Spotify…
What about you? Do you feel you watch too much TV? What other things do you do for fun on the evenings?