Sod the ‘To Do’ list…let’s play today

sod the housework, let's play today

Recently I seem to have become very aware of how much I’m rushing around the house trying to ‘get my shit together’ whilst Taylor entertains herself. I’m aware of how many times I flee during the middle of a play session, realising that I need to get the washing out, make that phone call or start preparing dinner. “Mummy’s just got to…”… “Mummy will be back in just one minute…”

sod the housework, let's play today

Not so long ago, I read a great blog post, ‘If I could just go back for one day’, by Helen over at Just Saying Mum, which has stayed with me. As a mum of teenagers, she talks about how quickly the childhood years go by and how important it is to cherish every single moment – how, if she could go back for one day, she wouldn’t be doing house chores or fretting about routine, she’d be playing with her toddlers, being silly and having fun…because these moments don’t last forever.

Since becoming a mum I seem to have become obsessed with optimising every single minute of my day.

Time seems to be much more elusive these days – I never have enough of it. And since I started working three days a week, I feel more than ever that there’s so much to cram into my days at home. I’m not sure when it happened but my days are now split into time blocks – tidy house, play with daughter, walk dog, go food shopping, blog, prepare dinner… And If I haven’t ticked off everything else on my ‘to do’ list for that day, I feel like a bit of a failure. A poor excuse for a wife and mother. sod the housework let's play today

Sometimes I wonder if I’m missing the point of motherhood entirely…Sometimes I feel a pang of jealousy when Dad gets home from work and makes our daughter laugh more in the one hour he spends with her, than I’ve managed all day…But at least the house is tidy, right?

Granted, there are always going to be chores to complete and things that we have to do – chaos would soon take over if we did nothing but play for a week. But recently I’ve been thinking ‘what the hell?’ Does it really matter if I don’t get around to cleaning the bathroom today, or if I start cooking dinner half an hour later? So what if we’re at the park for two hours because my daughter wants to feed the ducks and I don’t get to do the ‘big food shop’ as planned…it really doesn’t matter.

Nobody will even know but me.sod the housework lets play

I read another brilliant post recently from Kirsten at The Guilt Free Guide which was all about valuing our role as parents and not to place too much emphasis on what we produce or achieve each day. A day spent caring for a child can have no significant features to it despite being busy the whole time. It can be hard to know what we have actually done except been there for our children. I for one seem to struggle with this and I think a lot of mums put pressure on themselves to constantly justify their role when at home all day with the kids – with tangible achievements and a completed to do list.

But surely there is no better achievement than raising a happy and fulfilled human being.

So, the next time my daughter wants to get out the craft box just after I’ve vacuumed, or wants me to chase her around the kitchen as I’m up to my elbows in the washing up, I’ll stop what I’m doing and I’ll indulge her. Afterall, what difference will another 20 minutes make?

I know that too soon she’ll be a teenager and I’ll be yearning for these days again when I was her best friend and all she wanted to do was spend time with me.

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  1. The Tale of Mummyhood
    October 26, 2016 at 7:35 am

    Lovely post, and a great reminded that this time is so precious.

    #BestandWorst
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  2. NewMummyBlog
    October 26, 2016 at 8:40 am

    I completely agree, and often do find myself running about like a loon a) trying to catch up but also b) copying or chasing H because that’s what she wants me to do. I think it’s a great exercise regime too 😃 To be honest though, as I spend the time playing with H, and sitting with her as she likes cuddles on the sofa instead of a nap, I’ve found that it’s been my blog that’s slipped, as I used to use any nap time to blog. I tend to do housework when she draws or eats snacks…. OR sHe helps eeeeeek! #bestandworst
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  3. Sarah Howe @runjumpscrap
    October 26, 2016 at 2:03 pm

    It’s so funny as I have just had a convo with hubby about how all I feel I do is tidy up since the new baby has come!! I am really trying to play more with my oldest so we can have some one on one time. This does mean the house is so untidy!! And on her nursery days I want to snuggle with the newborn. Great post and I will be trying to do the same!! Thanks for sharing with #bestandworst x

  4. Jeremy Barnes
    October 26, 2016 at 4:20 pm

    I think we’ve all fallen into this trap before. Its always good to step back every once in a while and re-prioritize how we are spending our time #bestandworst

  5. Renee @peonieandme
    October 26, 2016 at 9:49 pm

    I remember reading a blog post (so sorry I forget who wrote it) about a Mum that timed how many times her children looked up to see if she was looking. I also forgot how many glances she missed but it was enough to make me sad. Sad that whilst cleaning, tidying, blogging and keeping up to social media, we are missing our little ones grow and develop. I need to try and find more time to be silly. Its usually once Henry is on my knee for bed and we enjoy real quality time. Pulling silly faces or kissing him goodnight. Lovely blog post. Renee @peonieandme #bestandworst

  6. Lex
    October 28, 2016 at 11:41 am

    Completely agree with you. This is something I’ve definitely taken on board a little bit more now. I was super organised before babies, now with a 21 month old girl and baby number 2 due in April, I’ve learnt to go with the flow. In 15 years time my house will be clean and tidy and my children will be their own people, who living for the moment now is wonderful for our body and mind. Lovely post 🙂 #bestandworst

  7. Jo from Organised Jo
    October 28, 2016 at 8:52 pm

    You are so right. As Mum’s we try so hard to please everyone but end up not actually pleasing anyone! Your post is a great reminder for me to try & stop saying ‘just one minute & will be with you”. #PicknMix
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  8. Justsayingmum
    October 28, 2016 at 9:37 pm

    Oh this was such a lovely post and I’m so pleased that my post made you stop for a moment – in fact I’m thrilled – enjoy these precious moments lovely and thank you so much for the mention xx

  9. Helena
    October 28, 2016 at 10:28 pm

    This must be the one thing I stress over the most and feel guilty about. #bestandworst
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  10. Katy (What Katy Said)
    October 29, 2016 at 7:50 am

    This post really resonated with me. I’m always starting a game and then popping off to do something. Definitely going to make more of an effort to just enjoy the moment. x
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  11. Amie
    October 29, 2016 at 4:48 pm

    This post is unfortunately all too true in my home. Half way through reading this I put my phone down and got on the floor to tickle my baby and do some building with my toddler. I’ve really been worrying a lot lately that they’re being neglected whilst I’m cooking, cleaning, playing with laundry, Blogging and doing linkys #PicknMix
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  12. A Cornish Mum
    October 29, 2016 at 7:03 pm

    Beautifully written as always and so true. My boys are 10 and 12 now, as hard as things seemed when they were toddlers, I would so happily go back now and do it all again. Thanks for linking up to #Picknmix

    Stevie x
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  13. Alana - Burnished Chaos
    October 30, 2016 at 7:44 am

    Great post, and a much needed reminder. We are heading out today for a walk through the forest and I’m already panicking about how many jobs I have to do and how I’m going to cram it all in, including being three days behind on all my commenting agter having family visiting. But now I’m going to push all that to the back of my mind and focus on really enjoying my time out with the kids. Thank you x

  14. Catherine Radley
    October 30, 2016 at 8:58 pm

    This is so wonderful. I do often worry that I spend too much time with Little R and not enough time on the rest of my life but time is precious! #PickNMix

    1. Natalie Mudd
      November 10, 2016 at 11:59 am

      It really is, and they grow up so fast! We should all be a little easier on ourselves x

  15. Crummy Mummy
    October 31, 2016 at 2:05 pm

    I can really relate to this at the moment – so much to do and so little time! #bestandworst

  16. Complicated Gorgeousness
    November 3, 2016 at 9:47 am

    Mine are all in school now and I would love to have one of those chilled play days again. It seems so boring at the time but it really is the best time… cosy, warm, cuddles… enjoy xxx #coolmumclub

    1. Natalie Mudd
      November 10, 2016 at 11:58 am

      Thank you – I’m definitely trying to enjoy each moment (aside from the tantrums!!) Lol xx

  17. Talya
    November 3, 2016 at 1:40 pm

    I love this post and relate to this so much. I hate myself when I find I’m “too busy” to play with my little girl because it’s the now that counts…isn’t it? Thanks for linking up with #coolmumclub lovely x
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    1. Natalie Mudd
      November 10, 2016 at 11:57 am

      Glad you can relate huni, I think we all put so much pressure on ourselves as mums to be all things to all people and it’s really not always possible – something has to give x

  18. Angela Watling
    November 3, 2016 at 4:56 pm

    Lovely post and you’re spot on! I recently started to do this and just indulge my daughter a bit. Or often we’ll now do some chores together and try to make it a game. The other day we hoovered upstairs and she used either the nozzle or the stick bits to ‘hoover’ with mummy. It perhaps wasn’t as thorough as if I weren’t climbing round a toddler. But she enjoyed it and we got the house a little neater! Hope you enjoy the extra play time! #CoolMumClub
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    1. Natalie Mudd
      November 10, 2016 at 11:57 am

      Getting them involved in chores is such a great idea – I often give my daughter a bottle of empty spray and a cloth and she helps me ‘clean’ the bathroom. It works for 5 minutes until she clocks that her spray is empty and she wants to use mine!! Lol x

  19. five little doves
    November 3, 2016 at 7:15 pm

    I love this and I have this attitude most days, which is why I NEVER get anything done and my house is a constant pig sty!! But still, plenty of time to clean when the children are grown! #coolmumclub
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    1. Natalie Mudd
      November 10, 2016 at 11:55 am

      Love that you have this attitude most days – bravo! I definitely am trying to adopt it a lot more often x

  20. Lucy At Home
    November 3, 2016 at 8:26 pm

    Oooh yes you nailed it on the head. I’m a SAHM and I really do feel like I need to justify why I’m at home and what I’ve ticked off my list. But I also feel so guilty about getting up halfway through playing to hang the washing out or whatever. It’s a constant battle between household chores and childcare; between practicality and fun. #CoolMumClub
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    1. Natalie Mudd
      November 10, 2016 at 11:54 am

      It really is a constant battle and so hard not to feel like we’re constantly failing. But I think the fact that we’re aware of it, shows that we are all ace mums really x

  21. Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love)
    November 4, 2016 at 12:00 pm

    This is beautiful and such a good reminder that our children are only little for a short time and the to-do list can often wait. I’ve been trying to make more effort to slow down and enjoy the moment too and I think we’re all happier for it. #coolmumclub
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    1. Natalie Mudd
      November 10, 2016 at 11:53 am

      It can be so difficult to put on the brakes and take heed sometimes, but I think we all have to remind ourselves that these years will fly by x

  22. Laura @ Little Ladies Big World
    December 12, 2016 at 11:35 pm

    I think this so much at the moment. Since my eldest started school I have wondered where the time has gone but then now the littlest is nearly 2 -!: I feel it even more acutely. Having been poorly recently I know I will be less to do list and more to do now. Great post x
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