7 things I totally took for granted before having a kid

Things I took for granted before having a kid

I love my daughter, of course I do. I wouldn’t change a thing…But every now and then I allow my mind to wander back to a simpler time in my life when popping out for a shop wasn’t a military operation, or I could take my time over a three course meal…Here are seven things I totally took for granted in my pre-child life…

Things I took for granted before having a kid

Shopping ‘at leisure’

There seems to be two ways that I shop since I became the owner of a small human. The first consists of a carefully planned list (written out in the very specific order that I’ll be passing the shop/aisle). I’m a woman on a mission – I have fifteen minutes until my toddler daughter finishes her two packs of raisins, there is no time to waste.

The second is the panic shop I do when I’ve not been organised enough to write out the above list (or left it on the kitchen counter as I was trying to convince my daughter that she can’t keep her slippers on)…In the supermarket I’ll frantically throw every item into my trolley – in the hope that some of those items will be the ones I need. In the shopping centre I’ll grab clothes off the racks (obviously no time for the fitting room), telling myself I’ll take back what I don’t like. I never do.


things I took for granted before having a kid

I’ve forgotten what it feels like to browse at my own leisure, comparing products, looking at ingredients, trying on six items in the fitting rooms…

Starters and desserts

Parents of young kids know that a meal out is not the treat it used to be. You ended up there because you a) couldn’t be bothered to cook or b) realised there’s no food in the fridge c) left it long enough that you forgot the nightmare you had last time and tricked yourself into thinking you’re going to have a ‘nice family outing’.

The minute we walk into a restaurant, the toddler thinks she’s at soft play and proceeds to run around, climb the furniture and hide under the tables. On a bad day when she’s hungry she will simply scream and hurl cutlery at us across the table.

This usually means that we’ll order her food before we’ve even looked at our own menus…Which of course we then regret when she’s finished her food just as ours arrives and is standing up in the high chair wanting out (“Ice-cream please!”)

By the time we’ve finished our mains it’s definitely time to get out of there. We practically run out of the door, mumbling something about picking up a dessert from TescoΒ on the way home and watching Made in Chelsea. Eating out is over rated anyway.

Trips to the cinema

Oh, how I miss the cinema! Those days when we used to decide on a Sunday afternoon (just as the hangover was wearing off) that we were going to take ourselves into town for a Wagamama and cinema evening. Sometimes we weren’t even that bothered about the film we were going to see (we’d seen all the good ones already). We just wanted to chill out and munch on popcorn/pick-n-mix, Ice Blasts…

A hot cuppa

I probably make myself about five cups of tea a day. I probably drink one in its entirety (the first one in bed!). After that I find them around the house, cold and forgotten about.

Things I took for granted before having a kid


I don’t think this one needs much explanation. However at least I can take some comfort from knowing that I definitely made the most of all of those mornings when my younger self was able to lie in. Those lazy mornings when I’d wake up and look at my phone to realise it was ONLY 9AM and what the hell was I doing awake already? I’d lull myself back to sleep until it was gone 11 – a much more acceptable time…

These days by 11am I’ve already been up for six hours. Sleep is most definitely not over rated.

A tidy house

My house is actually ‘tidy’ twice a day – in the morning before the toddler wakes up, and in the evening after she’s gone to bed. But ‘tidy’ these days literally means that all of the toys have been pushed into one corner of the living room and you may still get the odd raisin stick to the bottom of your foot as you walk to the bedroom.

The ‘clean washing’ in the basket never actually gets ‘put away’ before we ‘put it on’ and there’s a permanent array of hair bobbles, slides, used wet wipes and small socks on every table top.

And let’s not mention those bloody sequins I’m still finding EVERYWHERE. And we haven’t even entered the LEGO stage yet…

My mother

Becoming a parent yourself gives you this whole new respect for your own parents. You can’t quite believe that they let you live all of these years without reminding you every single day how much they’ve done for you. How they gave up sleep for you, how you embarrassed them with all of those public tantrums, how you used to hurl cutlery at them during meals out…I guess you have to actually do it for yourself, until you actually believe it.

What would you add?

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19 Comment

  1. Reply
    Moderate Mum
    November 17, 2016 at 8:49 pm

    Yes, yes and yes again, particularly shiopping. If I am clothes shopping with my son I have a box of raisins worth of time to get it done.

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      Natalie Mudd
      November 18, 2016 at 2:45 pm

      Ha! Snacks are definitely my (not so secret) shopping weapon! x

  2. Reply
    November 18, 2016 at 9:28 pm

    So true! I wish I could go back to the pre-children me and have a word in her ear about appreciating these sorts of things. Although I think even then you wouldn’t fully appreciate it! πŸ™‚ #TheListLinky x

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    Madeline (This Glorious Life)
    November 19, 2016 at 4:49 pm

    Yes to all of these! I would also add showering, and going to the toilet, in peace. And doing these things at a leisurely pace! x #TheList
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    Laura Delaney
    November 20, 2016 at 12:15 pm

    I can completely relate and agree to all of these, especially the lie ins! 7 months still strong of 4-5 night feeds! Haha as well as my mum, I do now realise how much she sacrificed for us children which I wasn’t even aware of when I was younger. It’s all worth it though isn’t it xxx #KCACOLS

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    Jo Sandelson
    November 20, 2016 at 5:51 pm

    Raisins under your foot is one thing. I really don’t mind that compared to the other small round squishy thing that looks like a raisin, you hope is chocolate but is neither. Pre-baby I don’t remember treading many of those around the house into the carpets. Eeuurgh. Jo x #KCALCOLS

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    Alana -Burnished Chaos
    November 21, 2016 at 8:14 pm

    Ha ha, brilliant, nodded along to all of these!

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    Jenn @ Mad Mommy
    November 24, 2016 at 5:30 am

    naps and disposable income would have to be added to my list but there is not a thing on yours I disagree with. #KCACOLS

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    Angela Watling
    November 24, 2016 at 10:01 am

    Nodding to all of these. I’d also add how much of a luxury it is to be able to stop and mull something over. Having the time to think and ponder is such a luxury now. If I zone out for even a minute (usually whilst making another cup of tea) it is quickly interrupted by stomping feet and a cry of “Nack*. Nack. NACK!” (*Snack – words starting with ‘S’ are still a work in progress!) #CoolMumClub
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    November 24, 2016 at 10:42 am

    I nodded along in sympathy at every one of these. I cant remember the last time I actually tried on an outfit before buying it. Infact I can’t remember the last time I went into town and actually left with what I went in there for and lie-ins? Oh how I miss those. I can barely remember what they were like but I know that I miss them. I also miss being able to savour the flavour while eating a bar of chocolate all to myself. Now I either have to share it with the kids or chuck iy down my throat at lightning speed barely tasting it while hiding my face in a kitchen cupboard (but not the treat one else theyd be on to me.

    (Unhinged mummy stopping by from #coolmumclub).

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    November 24, 2016 at 2:01 pm

    Yes to this and more! If only we could get in a time machine and experience all of this sans kids so we could savour the sweet delights of these with the benefit of hindsight eh? Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xx
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    Kirsty - Winnettes
    November 24, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    I miss the cinema too! So so much! I only ever do online shopping now (even for clothes where possible). We love a stones trow from the supermarket but I still get the man to deliver it because it is just easier and less stressful for all involved. I would also add the quiet. I don’t ever feel like I am on my own anymore, because I am not. There is always someone in the house with me.

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    November 24, 2016 at 7:59 pm

    Spot on!! Oh you just reminded me of the words “lie in” #KCACOLS

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    November 25, 2016 at 10:01 am

    The cinema is the one I miss the most. We used to go all the time but haven’t been in 9 months! #kcacols
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    The Speed Bump
    November 25, 2016 at 10:28 am

    So true. I so miss lie-ins! And being able to just walk around a shop and browse, without dealing with tantrums over milkybars! #KCACOLS
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    Sharon Parry
    November 25, 2016 at 2:55 pm

    Haha what a brilliant list. I especially remember the endless cups of cold tea. Thankfully, mine are now old enough to make me one! Revenge is sweet!! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

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    Emma me and b
    November 25, 2016 at 10:03 pm

    hehe this made me chuckle because its true. I really miss sleeping in and lazing about and I miss watching boxsets back to back on a rainy sunday. #KCACOLS
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    Lisa Smyth
    December 1, 2016 at 2:55 pm

    I don’t have any kids yet but this post definitely made me laugh! I find it so hard to find the time as it is god knows how all of you super mums do it πŸ™‚ x

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    Megan Nichole
    November 14, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    I literally could not agree with each and every point more! The meals, the “tidy” house, the cupos of warm tea…My 14 month old is the love of my life, but like you said…sometimes you just reminisce!

    As he crossed the year mark, I vowed to get back into my personal writing, which has been going well so far. *crosses fingers that I can keep it up*

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