Family life (and life in general) is so hectic. We get caught up in daily routines, running errands and making plans, that we can sometimes forget to stop and take stock. I think we’re all guilty of getting caught up in the daily grind, forgetting to make time for ourselves and taking for granted those who are closest to us.
I for one have definitely been guilty of this of late. I’ve been so busy planning for our relocation, the new baby and leaving work again. My head’s been constantly full of things to do and plan that I haven’t had the headspace for anything else right now.
Like most young families, the hubby and I hardly get any quality time together during the working week. By the time he gets home from work, we’ve got Taylor to bed, cooked, ate and tended to a couple of those things ‘to do’ (okay, and perhaps watched Love Island…), we literally cannot wait to crash out in bed!
Our family time is limited to the one day each week when the hubby doesn’t work.
You can’t pour from an empty cup
I think when it all becomes a little too much, it’s so important to be able to say so and take some time out.
I think we all have sides of ourselves that we don’t particularly like, and I don’t like the version of me that’s short-fused and irritable. Sometimes I know I’m being a bit of a dick, but I just can’t help it when I’m stressed out and tired.
I don’t like that version of my other half either, and I think we’ll both admit that we’ve been a little cranky lately.
No matter how hard you try, you just cannot pour from an empty cup. Every so often it’s necessary for us all to take some time out and recharge our batteries. So that we can return to our lives with a renewed enthusiasm and be the best version of ourselves.
A family holiday
So we decided to have an impromptu week away on the south coast this week. With us moving house next week and my due date looming, we knew that this will be the last opportunity we get for a while – and the last holiday we’ll have as a family of three (eek!!)
So I’m sat writing this from the cockpit on our sailing boat, watching the sun go down (I wish I could say ‘glass of wine in hand’ but being 8 months pregnant and all that…) We’re moored up in a harbour in Plymouth, and since I would be pretty useless as First Mate right now (I’m pretty useless anyway in all honesty!), this is where the boat will be staying for the duration of our holiday.
We have of course made the most of having our car to hand and have been so lucky with the weather (for once!), so we’re having a brilliant time visiting different beaches and attractions on England’s beautiful south coast.
If you want more time, you must make it
But what I’ve loved most about our holiday so far is getting to spend quality time with my little family. Instead of irritating each other, the hubby and I have become play mates once again. We have no need to get impatient with each other, because we have that precious thing – time. He’s not trying to get out of the door before 7.30am and I’m not left feeling overwhelmed by the day ahead alone.
I don’t care if Taylor insists on getting herself dressed in the mornings (and then undressed and dressed again!), because I have nowhere to be for 9am. We don’t have to juggle nursery runs, dog walks, meal times and bed times. We wake up each day, check the weather and decide what to do with our day.
Taylor has been in her absolute element – every day is a new adventure. She’s loving having both her mummy and daddy around and the undivided attention we can give her. Even her speech seems to have come on in the five days that we’ve been here.
I think the single most important lesson from a holiday is that you can always make time. The world doesn’t stop turning if you take yourself out of it for a week or so. Everything will still be as you left it when you get back.
You will never ‘find’ time for anything. If you want time, you must make it – Charles Bruxton
Do you get much ‘quality family time’? Are holidays a luxury or a necessity?